A Pathway to Genuine Empathy and Connection

We live in a world and a society with so much division and so much disconnection, one where we often define ourselves and others more by our differences than what we have in common. However, healing our world, our culture, our relationships and ourselves is going to require us developing deeper, more genuine empathy and connection with others. One of the pathways to that type of empathy and connection with another person is gaining a deeper understanding of another’s lived experiences. As Dr. Brene Brown says, “People are hard to hate close up. Move in”. One way to move in and get to know others better is by listening to the lived experiences of others in their own words.

So, I decided to write this post and compile a list of some of my favorite memoirs and biographies for anyone who is interested in deepening their understanding of the lived experiences of another person who they perceive as different from them. My hope is that as you listen to these lived experiences, you may see a piece of yourself in them and feel a connection and empathy for this other person. I fervently believe empathy is one of the keys to healing our world. As we practice empathy, we create more empathy which is something our world, culture, systems, relationships and hearts all need a whole lot more of right now.

Becoming
By Obama, Michelle
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Illegitimate: How a Loving God Rescued a Son of Polygamy
By Mackert, Brian J., Mackert, Brian, Miller, Susan Martins
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Mormon Enigma: Emma Hale Smith
By Newell, Linda King, Avery, Valeen Tippetts
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Please note that I will receive a small amount on purchases made from my website in return for directing people to the books I recommend most highly as an experienced therapist. However, I have been recommending these book to my clients, friends and family with no compensation for years, and will continue to recommend these particular book even if I don’t receive any compensation whatsoever.

Best and Most Recommended Parenting Book

Best and Most Recommended Parenting Book

This is the best parenting book. I recommend this book so highly and more often than any other parenting book to those I work with is that research has found that the factor that predicts a child’s success most in life is their emotional intelligence. This book teaches and simplifies the research-validated process of enabling your child to develop that emotional intelligence using decades of research from parent-child pairs in whom the child developed emotional intelligence.

Children with whom their parents effectively used this process show a multitude of positive outcomes including being better able to control their impulses, delay gratification, motivate themselves, cope with life’s ups and downs, regulate their own emotional states, bounce back from stress, take on responsibility, and carry on productive activities among many other positive behaviors and benefits.

Most parents are aware that there are a LOT of parenting books out there. However, this is one of the most research-based parenting books available, and it gives you tools to better understand your style and to focus on the interactions, relationship factors and communication that matter the most with your child. This book can be applied with a child of any age and research has shown that even a non-custodial parent using this process can be enough to develop emotional intelligence in their child. I literally have entire bookshelves full of parenting books. However, this one is my very favorite and I highly recommend it to you.

If you recognize that you could use additional assistance, support and guidance beyond what this book can provide, please reach out to me by email or phone to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation to explore how I could assist you.

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Choosing a Therapist who is a Good Fit for You

Choosing a Therapist who is a Good Fit for You

Choosing a therapist who is a good fit for you is an important, personal decision. Each therapist has certain types of people with whom they work most effectively. I’ve put together a list below of some of the traits and behaviors of clients with whom I’ve achieved the best results in my work. I might be the right therapist for you if any of the following apply to you:

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The Best and Most Recommended Books for Couples Wanting to Improve Your Relationship

The Best and Most Recommended Books for Couples Wanting to Improve Your Relationship

Although reading a book often isn’t enough to significantly change the quality and direction of a relationship long-term, I have found in my 15+ years of practice that books can be an excellent resource to enable couples to stabilize and improve their relationship more quickly, in combination with our work in couples therapy.

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