Choosing a Therapist who is a Good Fit for You from SLC Therapist Christy Kobe, LCSW, CCTP, Trauma Therapist Salt Lake City
Choosing a therapist who is a good fit for you is an important, personal decision. Every individual who is looking for a Salt Lake City therapist is struggling with a unique combination of things, and every therapist or counselor has certain types of people with whom they work most effectively and certain types of struggles with which they are able to help clients attain the most significant outcomes.
So, I’ve put together a description below of some of the traits, behaviors and struggles of the clients with whom I’ve achieved the best results and most transformative outcomes in my work as a SLC therapist and trauma therapist in Salt Lake City.
I might be the right therapist for you if any of the following apply to you:
You feel on the verge of panicking a lot lately or feel on the verge of losing control.
You feel like you are going crazy.
You feel ashamed for feeling like this because you think you should be able to handle things better than this.
You feel angry at yourself for upsetting others or letting them down.
You feel angry at yourself for not meeting your expectations of yourself.
You’re feeling confused and unmoored—and maybe even scared—like you’re being blown from one place to another, in a loud, chaotic windstorm.
You feel disoriented and there are so many things coming at you, all at the same time, that you feel incredibly stressed and overwhelmed.
The more that happens in your life or at work, the less you feel able to handle things.
You prefer to compartmentalize uncomfortable feelings and avoid thinking about uncomfortable things because unpacking things feels so stressful, overwhelming and vulnerable.
Lately, compartmentalizing isn’t working and you keep getting triggered by things and overreacting to things that aren’t that big of a deal logically.
You try to help yourself feel safe, secure and stable by controlling things, doing things perfectly, performing at very high levels compared to others, people pleasing, and anticipating and taking responsibility for other people’s feelings and needs.
You feel out of control lately, and in a state of flight or fight much of the time.
You’ve been pushing yourself to do more and work harder in an effort to decrease your stress, and as you’re doing that, it’s becoming more and more clear that this pace isn’t sustainable.
You’re afraid that you’re going to shut down and completely stop functioning or that you’re going to break.
You’re afraid that if you slow down, all of your feelings and racing thoughts will completely overwhelm you, and that you’ll be even worse off than you are now.
You are a super independent person and feel isolated as you are trying to carrying everything, and just can’t do this anymore.
You don’t feel like yourself lately.
Other people feel far away, unavailable, or not real sometimes.
At the center of everything you’re dealing with, you feel alone and have felt alone for SO long.
While you feel ashamed that you can’t handle what’s happening on your own and you feel like you should be able to, you can’t take this emotional rollercoaster anymore and need help.
If any of these things sound like you or your struggles, please reach out to me here through my contact form to request to schedule your 45 minute phone consultation, or you may also email or call me to request to schedule your consultation. I’d love to explore the possibility of working with you as a Salt Lake City therapist.
Additionally, I may be the right therapist for you if any of the following apply to you:
You worry about the future.
You spend a significant amount of time thinking about situations, conversations or relationships.
You enjoy learning new things, and try to learn from your mistakes.
You are a sensitive person or have been told you are “too sensitive”.
You feel guilty or anxious when you displease others.
You have very high expectations of yourself.
You can be hard on yourself.
You struggle with shame or feeling “not good enough”.
You feel things deeply.
You try to improve things by identifying what you can do differently and working on that.
You like to understand what happened and cause and effect.
It’s really important to you to feel understood.
You often put others’ needs before your own, and sometimes end up feeling resentful.
You find it helpful to be able to talk through a situation.
You want to help others understand why there is a problem.
You are self-reflective and take responsibility for solving problems.
You view life as an opportunity to improve yourself and enjoy developing your capabilities.
You are willing to change in order to improve a situation or relationship.
You feel overwhelmed with your current struggles.
You feel burned out or are afraid that you’re headed for burnout.
If any of these things sound like you or your struggles, please reach out to me here through my contact form to request to schedule your 45 minute phone consultation, or you may also email or call me to request to schedule your phone consultation.
I’m looking forward to meeting you and exploring partnering with each other.
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Blog Author Bio
Christy Kobe, LCSW, CCTP, EMDR Therapist Utah, is a Salt Lake City therapist who has been practicing in the SLC area since Spring 2003. In addition to completing her licensure as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Christy has completed certification as a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), completed training and certification as an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapist, completed in-depth clinical training on Polyvagal Theory Informed Trauma Therapy, completed a certification training to help clients struggling to deal with an individual with a personality disorder in their lives, completed all of the Gottman Couples Method Therapy trainings through The Gottman Institute, completed a certificate in Trauma-Informed Parent Child Interaction Therapy at The Trauma Center in Boston, MA, and completed extensive clinical training on the treatment of trauma and attachment taught by international experts on these subjects.
She works with sensitive, high achieving, perfectionistic, or progressive women who are stressed, overwhelmed, burned out, and afraid they are about to break. She is especially passionate about working with clients who have experienced complex trauma, childhood trauma, relational trauma, or religious trauma, including developmental trauma, preverbal trauma, and emotional neglect. Please reach out to request a consultation if you would like to explore the possibility of partnering with her as your therapist.